STOP
BEATING AROUND THE BUSH!
By Pat Provost
Don't you just love it when you ask a
question and get a straight answer? When
you ask a sales person for a price on
the item you can't live without, you
don't want to hear variations of, "Well, it's quite expensive,"
or, "It's a really great
price," or, "It's a very
durable item and well worth the
cost." You want to know how much it
costs, and you want to know now.
Many people feel they have to "beat around the bush" to get
their point across, but then there are
the refreshing few who will say exactly
what they mean.
My father was the most direct person
I have ever known. He was a man of few
words, but all of his words meant
something. Every question was answered
in the most direct manner. He
would elaborate only if he thought it
was necessary for us to understand.
My father taught his children how to
be direct as well, and although my
opinions were always listened to and
respected, at times I found myself
coming down with a bad case of "foot in mouth."
Learning to be direct can be a humbling
experience. It can be a great
asset, or a great liability.
The frank, direct person wants to
know the answer to their question, and
will give you the answer to your
questions in the same direct way, like
it or not. When they present their ideas
or opinions, you will know exactly what
they mean; you won't have to wonder if
they meant this, that or the other
thing.
It can be a little scary when you
meet someone like this, if you are not
accustomed to dealing with this trait.
Most of us try to tone down our
criticism, or inflate our praise, just
to be "NICE."
Not so with "Dan Direct." He says what he means and when he asks
the question, he wants a definite
answer. If you ask the question,
you'll get a definite answer.
"Honey, does this dress make me
look fat?" you ask.
"No," responds Dan Direct,
"that dress does not make you look
fat. You are fat."
A direct response isn't always what
you want to hear, but at least you know
where you stand.
This trait of directness is shown by
having no beginning stroke in the letter
t. Frankness, or bluntness, is
shown by relatively large o's and
a's with no inner loops.
Directness is a trait that really
requires observation of the other traits
in the handwriting, in order to
determine if it's a negative or a
positive trait for that particular
person.
For instance, are they domineering?
Sensitive to criticism? Sarcastic? This
combo could create an unpleasant scene,
with the person rudely stating, "You look awful in that
outfit." However, if their handwriting
indicates directness along with
diplomacy and optimism, perhaps they'll
be happy to tell you, directly, but in a
nice way, "Gee, I really like the
other outfit better." Now that's
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-------- Article Continued ---------------- Examples of sensitivity to criticism,
sarcasm, dominance, diplomacy and
optimism: 
Directness and frankness have their
place. In some situations, you just have
to tell it like it is, but it usually
works better to temper our words with
kindness, so as not to cause others pain
and distress.
Tempering our words can sometimes
save ourselves some pain or distress as
well, particularly when it involves
being blunt with a boss or some other
authority figure. Certain situations
require a little more diplomacy.
There are definitely a variety of
ways any given issue could be presented.
Some people are not equipped to handle
blunt directness. They may feel
threatened and need a softer approach.
I, on the other hand, would much rather
get a clear, concise answer, than listen
to a long, drawn-out explanation or
excuse.
"Why didn't you come to the
party?" you ask.
Which response would you rather hear?
"Well, I couldn't get a sitter,
and I had a flat tire, and there was a
wreck on the freeway, and we left a
little late"
OR
"I went out to chat with
Harry."
OR
"The dog ate the dessert I was
going to bring."
OR, how about the very direct answer,
"I didn't want to go."
Ahhhhh, my kind of person.
Pat Provost
Patricia Provost is a Certified
Handwriting Analyst who writes for our online newsletter. If you have an article to subit, please write our editor and you might be our next guest author to our worldwide audience.
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