Bad relationships is a topic that could fill many books. In this article, I am going to hit on the highlights and how to identify 8 key signs of through through handwriting analysis.
I’ll cover eight of the most significant relationship red flags.
First, I’d just like to say that analyzing handwriting does not make you have the ability to predict the future of a marriage or relationship… but you might be the bearer or bad news if you tell the whole truth.
People show me handwriting samples all the time and ask big questions like, “Can you tell if this person is a CHEATER or afraid of commitment?”
Those are big questions, and I’ll touch on them in this article. Handwriting reveals a person’s natural tendencies based on their personality traits. It does not reveal if or when a person with that trait MEETS that opportunity.
There is no “this person is cheating on their spouse” TRAIT in handwriting, but there are red flags that might mean a person has a high sex drive, a shaky moral compass and lies.
What I can tell you is that people with the belief that they do control their own destiny tend to do better in life. Thus, if you believe that you have influence over your relationship and you believe that you can choose the right partner, you are going to be more effective in that specific area of your life.
This information should prove helpful to you because
handwriting is brain writing.
Handwriting Analysis is a wonderful tool. I cannot imagine entering into a relationship of any importance in my life without looking at handwriting.
Once you learn this tool – and even if this is the first time you’ve ever been introduced to handwriting analysis – you’ll be addicted for life.
It is so useful and insightful. If you have not decided to take the home study course and really dive deep into the over 24 hours of pre-recorded lectures and training… what are you waiting for?
In relationships there are, by definition, two (or more) people.
You’ve got two personalities, and these personalities are going to conflict and meld in very interesting ways. That’s what I’m covering in this article.
You can look for red flags in handwriting — for traits you’d like to avoid in your relationship. The traits I’ll cover in this article are really relationship-destroying traits.
There are two ways to approach this process.
- You can analyze yourself
- Or you can analyze your partner.
If you are reading this article, I already know about you that you are working on yourself, and (as everyone knows), relationship problems are always your partner’s fault. We’ve all been there… Clearly we are each perfect, and our partners are the problem.
Of course, I am kidding, but the focus of this article is red flags for you to look for – whether you find them in yourself or your partner. If you find them in yourself, you can use the information as your personal road map for self-improvement. If you find them in your partner, then you have been warned!
First, I want you to understand that just because you see a trait once in handwriting, it does not mean the person is that way all the time.
If you do see it once or twice and it is inconsistent, then you will find that there is an undercurrent of this trait, whether it is generosity or one of the red flagged traits we’ll examine in this article.
Loyalty
Let’s start with loyalty because it is a consistent concern in relationships.
First of all, being unfaithful is a pretty big question. There is a trait called Loyalty that I’ve seen in all the Handwriting Analysis textbooks. In the 20 years that I’ve been doing this work, however, I cannot say that this trait has proven to be accurate.
It’s not as if somebody who shows Loyalty in their handwriting is never going to cheat. What it does mean is that they are a little more stable and more likely to stick to what they believe will work.
The Loyalty stroke in handwriting is an i-dot that’s very clean. It is an actual dot with no tail on it.
Having tails on i-dots may mean a propensity toward disloyalty, but it could also simply mean the person is simply feeling irritated.
If people have irritation in their lives, they tend to have lots of dashes and slashes and a little x.
The opposite of that would be no dash marks at all. That’s called Loyalty according to the textbooks.
In all honesty, I think a partner’s loyalty has a lot more to do with their values, belief system and morals, than what can or cannot be revealed in this stroke in handwriting.
To get at a person’s likelihood to be loyal or disloyal, you need to understand how they value things like honesty and integrity and what that person’s rules are around those topics.
So, if you see signs of Loyalty or Disloyalty in handwriting, take that into consideration but judge it in the overall context. This is probably the weakest of the red flags we’ll cover in this article, but I started with it because I get so many questions on this topic.
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Temper
This one is pretty straight-forward. Temper is revealed by the t- bar on the right side of the stem.
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Resentment
Resentment shows up in handwriting with a strong, unyielding, firm beginning stroke that looks like a ruler leaning up against the handwriting.
I don’t see this trait a lot. Sometimes when it shows up, I scratch my head and think, “This doesn’t make any sense. They are the nicest person.”
But, I guarantee that if they’ve got this unconscious hard beginning stroke, they’ve got something in the past (probably from childhood) that they are still very angry about.
If someone is still angry about something from the past, it eventually will come out in your direction if you are in a relationship with that person.
If they are mad about the fact that their mom left when they were eight, it comes out in females when they are 38. It really does! Until they heal that resentment, until they heal their past wounds, it is very difficult to have a normal relationship with them.
Resentment is one of those things that you might not see. It might hide under a mask of negative, pointed sarcasm or anger.
Though this probably won’t come up for you, one thing to keep in mind is that one key pattern among serial killers (and almost everyone with a violent streak) is the trait of resentment.
It is basically in the core.
An event happened in childhood. Anger remains. That creates a series of beliefs which sum up as, “The world is not fair.”
That’s a problem.
If someone believes the world is not fair, then they can justify things like cheating, stealing, or lying.
If you are in a relationship with someone who does not have good ethics (whether or not they stem from resentment), you won’t be able to trust them. The relationship is doomed. It is very hard to rebuild trust once it has been violated.
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Sensitive to Criticism
About one in five people demonstrate sensitivity to criticism in their handwriting. It is easy to spot: a big loop in your d, not just a little loop but a big, huge loop-de-loop like a hot air balloon floating away.
It simply means the writer is extremely sensitive to criticism.
It is as if the person has a cut on their arm with an open wound and even the slightest negative comment or indication is like pour salt in the wound. “OUCH!! Oh, OUCH!!! You don’t like my dress! You don’t like my hair!!”
This trait is extremely annoying, especially to people who do not have big d-loops. The rest of the world just isn’t going to feel like they are going to die over a small detail.
It is difficult to always be a people-pleaser. In fact, it is impossible. You cannot please everyone all the time.
If you date someone with a big d-loop, you need to understand that…
A) you will always be walking on egg shells, and
B) you cannot tease, kid, or be sarcastic because they will take it ten time more personally than they would otherwise.
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Defiance
Another stroke to look for in this regard is a big k (like a capital-sized k when it should not be capital – like the k in “quick”). It means they are oversensitive to criticism but take it in a different way.
We call it the “go to hell k.” It reveals defiance meaning that they break all the rules.
In the U.S., people like to be defiant. In fact, one of the core values typical of the red, white, and blue is reflected in the swagger of the cowboy.
The more defiant a person is, the less likely they are to want to commit to any contract.
That does not mean that they cannot be loyal, but it is one sign that a person has issues or a knee-jerk reaction to authority.
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Stability
When you see inconsistent handwriting that is all over the place in size and slant and shape, you know you are dealing with someone who is inconsistent and unstable.
One day the person may be warm and gentle and the next day cold and hostile.
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Lying
The double o-loop is the Lying loop.
If someone is a real pathological liar, meaning they really believe what they are saying and they are delusional, they probably won’t have the double o-loop.
Double loops in the letter o imply some self-deceit and insecurity with others.
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The Stinger (Intermittent Affection Reinforcement Complex)
If you see this in handwriting, you have to play hard-to-get. You know they like strong, challenging members of the opposite gender.
They will start fights for no reason, just to test your strength. (This goes for men and women.) If you want to know more about this trait, this recent article DIVES deep into this complex issue.
If you do not have this trait and are dating someone who does, it is going to be a game for you. It’s going to be a game you may not enjoy.
If you do have this trait, you probably want to be with someone else with the trait because you’re compatible. You are going to play one-upmanship. You are going to tease each other. You are going to use sarcasm.
This is a trait of hostility, for sure.
A person with The Stinger probably had some issues with their mother or father back with they were younger.
It is common, probably showing up in more than 40% of the people on the planet. Still, it is hostility.
If you have a big Stinger everywhere, you are what my dad would call a “ball buster.”
It is a very challenging trait. Personally, I don’t like dealing with people that have this. Now, I find it is just too much work for me.
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Seeing The Big Pattern Through Stacking
What you are doing is building a case, looking for a pattern.
In most cases, you would not cast someone off for a single red flag in their handwriting. There’s probably not one trait that’s going to raise such a big red flag that from that one trait alone you would decide not to date a person.
But, if you get four or five or six of the negative traits, then you really have to walk away.
Using handwriting analysis is true and solid. I’ve been doing this for over twenty years. Every time I have not taken my own advice, every time I’ve seen a couple of traits and think, “Oh, it only shows up a couple times, I’m going to give this person a time,” four or five months later, I see it in action and I was sorry.
Even a subtle hostile trait will come out under pressure.
People can act all warm and fuzzy during normal or easy times, but under stress or duress, that is when the inner demons come out, and the negative traits are revealed.
Changes in Moods. Slight Changes in Writing.
Once you get into a relationship, you can keep an eye on handwriting for changes.
For instance, I described how to detect irritation in handwriting. You may notice signs of irritation in your partner’s writing that were not there last year or last month.
Handwriting Analysis is a fabulous tool to recognize an emotional state and create a basis for open conversation and understanding in couples.
How to Get a Good Long Handwriting Sample
Most people will voluntarily give you a handwriting sample if you ask.
Really, most people are intrigued and want to know more about themselves.
One thing you’ll find (if you have not already) is that once people know that you can analyze handwriting, you’ll be very popular and in-demand. People will literally line up to ask you to take a look at their handwriting.
If the person is usually a block printer, I still advise asking for a sample in cursive. That way you can get a better understanding of the personality – even if the writing is sloppy and confusing. There are traits that will only show up in cursive like stingers and lying loops.
If the person only block prints, it does not mean you cannot date them, but it may take you a longer time to get to know them – and they may not be generally very expressive.
If you are considering getting into a relationship with someone who refuses to give you a handwriting sample. You could consider that, in itself, as a red flag.
That person does not want you to really know them.
You have to ask yourself why.
You can also consider any bit of handwriting you find from that person fair game – a signature on a check or a birthday card, for instance.
Summary
You now know eight of the major relationship red flags and have some strategies on how to get samples to test for them and what to do with the information what you collect it.
Look for patterns and piece what you see together like the pieces of a puzzle. Just because one puzzle piece is red does not mean the whole puzzle is red.
Consider the overall picture of the person you are considering getting into a relationship with.
And, if you are already in a relationship with someone who has some of these red flag, you are now better equipped to understand what is going on.
If you find these traits in your own handwriting (the person you are most consistently in relationship with), then it is time for you to take action for yourself.
I have used these tools in all of the above ways – to help me decide whether or not to get into a relationship with a person, to understand a relationship I am in better, and as a wake-up call to myself to make some changes.
Handwriting analysis works. Get trained and make this part of your life.
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