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Stop Beating Around the Bush!
Written by: Pat Provost Don't you just love it when you ask a question and get a straight answer? When you ask a sales person for a price on the item you can't live without, you don't want to hear variations of, "Well, it's quite expensive," or, "It's a really great price," or, "It's a very durable item and well worth the cost." You want to know how much it costs, and you want to know now. Many people feel they have to "beat around the bush" to get their point across, but then there are the refreshing few who will say exactly what they mean. My father was the most direct person I have ever known. He was a man of few words, but all of his words meant something. Every question was answered in the most direct manner. He would elaborate only if he thought it was necessary for us to understand. My father taught his children how to be direct as well, and although my opinions were always listened to and respected, at times I found myself coming down with a bad case of "foot in mouth." Learning to be direct can be a humbling experience. It can be a great asset, or a great liability. The frank, direct person wants to know the answer to their question, and will give you the answer to your questions in the same direct way, like it or not. When they present their ideas or opinions, you will know exactly what they mean; you won't have to wonder if they meant this, that or the other thing. It can be a little scary when you meet someone like this, if you are not accustomed to dealing with this trait. Most of us try to tone down our criticism, or inflate our praise, just to be "NICE." Not so with "Dan Direct." He says what he means and when he asks the question, he wants a definite answer. If you ask the question, you'll get a definite answer. "Honey, does this dress make me look fat?" you ask. "No," responds Dan Direct, "that dress does not make you look fat. You are fat." A direct response isn't always what you want to hear, but at least you know where you stand. This trait of directness is shown by having no beginning stroke in the letter t. Frankness, or bluntness, is shown by relatively large o's and a's with no inner loops.
For instance, are they domineering? Sensitive to criticism? Sarcastic? This combo could create an unpleasant scene, with the person rudely stating, "You look awful in that outfit." However, if their handwriting indicates directness along with diplomacy and optimism, perhaps they'll be happy to tell you, directly, but in a nice way, "Gee, I really like the other outfit better." Now that's much more pleasant. ------ Advertisement ------ Be the first the join our new online training program, launching officially in May. But you can join now, totally free, and experience level 100... as my preview guest. Visit here now: http://www.handwritinganalysis.org/
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Directness and frankness have their place. In some situations, you just have to tell it like it is, but it usually works better to temper our words with kindness, so as not to cause others pain and distress. Tempering our words can sometimes save ourselves some pain or distress as well, particularly when it involves being blunt with a boss or some other authority figure. Certain situations require a little more diplomacy. There are definitely a variety of ways any given issue could be presented. Some people are not equipped to handle blunt directness. They may feel threatened and need a softer approach. I, on the other hand, would much rather get a clear, concise answer, than listen to a long, drawn-out explanation or excuse. "Why didn't you come to the party?" you ask. Which response would you rather hear? "Well, I couldn't get a sitter, and I had a flat tire, and there was a wreck on the freeway, and we left a little late" OR "I went out to chat with Harry." OR "The dog ate the dessert I was going to bring." OR, how about the very direct answer, "I didn't want to go." Ahhhhh, my kind of person. Pat Provost STUDENT TESTIMONIALS: The entire day
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