BY VISHWAS HEATHCLIFF
I have to tell you something. Could I talk to you in private for a few minutes? It’s strictly between you and me. Ok? You know, I think it might hurt you, but I can’t keep you in the dark any more. Actually, all this handwriting analysis talk that I do here is crap. I am a charlatan, mountebank and a flamboyant deceiver. Whatever I have been talking about on this website is a bunch of lies and has no ground whatsoever. In fact, every word I have written on this portal is false (and you were a stupid to believe every thing I said).
In short, what you just heard from me is: the articles you have been reading on graphology by me for the past two years (first through a column called Write Choice in Mumbai Mirror and subsequently on my website which I launched in January 2009) are falderal, rubbish, trash and of course nonsensical. Many of you, especially those who wrote me these lovely testimonials, would think I am just kidding and they would be inclined to take my revelations above with a pinch of salt. But I insist that what I have spoken above is the truth and nothing but the truth. Yes, I fooled you. I have been horsing around with you for the past two years.
It feels bad, doesn’t it? All this while I had been telling you stories about how useful handwriting analysis is in our day-to-day life and one day you get to know I was bullshitting all along. I am a big fat liar.
This is probably not the first time you have been deceived. This is surely not the first time you blindly believed the person who you thought was speaking the truth. When promises are broken and trust is breached, it hurts and you wish you were forewarned about the person. The challenge is how to see the true face of a liar before he can cause damages. Is there any way we can ensure that you don’t feel as cheated and betrayed as you just did because of my revelations? Lemme try.
Before I tell you how to identify liars, first allow me wear a headgear and a shield and pull out my sword from the scabbard (just in case you want to attack me). Yes, I must tell you that using handwriting analysis, one can indeed spot liars like me very easily. Look for double loops in the lower case ‘O’ — the communication letter. If the double loops in the alphabet appear frequently, you have a pathological liar. However, it must be observed how big the loops are and how often they are found. If they occur just once or twice and are small, the writer just withholds truth. However, there is a valid reason to put on your running shoes if you repeatedly see the strokes in someone’s handwriting.
Double loop overlapping to create a third loop (in picture below). This signifies that a person lies uncontrollably. These people are not trustworthy. Pathological liar is shown by a combination of loops in the right and left side of lower case a’s and o’s. (Please make a note here that a single loop on the left or on the right have a different meaning. We will talk about them later. Do not confuse it with double loops.)
American handwriting analyst and president of Handwriting University Bart Baggett says: “Inner loops that cross over signify a person is not comfortable telling the whole truth. The bigger the loops, the bigger the lies. This trait is very often a defense mechanism for a person who fears the consequences of telling the truth. Lying is intentional and for their own gain. This person is not to be trusted.”
HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH THOSE WHO HAVE THE LOOPS?
Now that you’ve learned all about lying loops in the letter ‘O’, you may find that many people, including some of your close friends and relatives, have those loops in their handwriting. So, what do you do? You snap all ties with them? Or never believe anything they say? Well, neither of the responses is feasible or practicable because till a lie is proven, it’s not one. And if you suspect every thing a person says, you will turn yourself into a sceptical scoundrel. So, how do you handle this?
Honestly, even I don’t know. But I will tell you a story — a true story. As a handwriting analyst, I met a girl about four years ago. Her handwriting revealed she had been abused and ill-treated by people very close to her. She was betrayed several times. Gradually, she saw a friend in me and got close to me. Now, she did not want to lose me and wanted my attention. But because she was an abused person who was made to feel worthless and good for nothing all her life, she was not sure whether I will give her attention, as she did not consider herself worthy. She thought I would also ill-treat her the way others did. So, the only way she could continue getting my attention was by magnifying her misery before me. She knew I would be sympathetic. She was right. I did become soft towards her then nothing stopped her from mistaking my sympathy for attention. She would frequently call me up and say how badly she was mistreated at home. I would feel bad about that and would listen to her and call her back sometimes to make her feel good.
One evening, I got a call from her cellphone. She told me she could not take any more harassment and therefore she had left her home and had now shifted to a friend’s place, where she was in an awful condition. I listened to her helplessly, hoping I could do something about her situation. I was telling her something and was trying to console and comfort her and then… snap… all of a sudden, she disconnected the phone. But I had heard a sound in the background and I had recognised it unmistakably: it was the unique ring tone of her home landline phone.
She was at home that evening. She did not go anywhere. But she wanted my attention. So, she lied to me. She was manipulating the situation to hold my attention. Did she have these loops? Yes. But there were a few other things in her handwriting, which supported lying loops. It was a big lower zone — which reflects a tendency to exaggerate.
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You might want to know what I did after that. Well, not immediately but soon I snapped all my ties with her. I am not in touch with her any more. She was not vile or treacherous when she told me that lie. She was really an ill-treated woman who needed some respect. She got it from me. So, naturally she did not want to let me go. It’s straight and simple. But I left because I had to go. I knew I would not want be in a situation like that where personally I would have been required to deal with her immense insecurities. Anyway, the point I am trying to make is that there is little sense in being judgmental about her or anyone else who has such a loop in their handwriting. It’s just a defence mechanism, as Bart says. In the fight for survival and respect, they lie and manipulate to turn things in their favour. If you find your friends have these loops and you don’t like to be with them, just make an informed decision to protect your interests and be careful. That’s probably the easiest way to deal with them.
DO YOU HAVE LYING LOOPS? JUNK THEM FAST
If you are the one who has these loops in the handwriting, try to get rid of them. Many handwriting analysts do not recommend removal of these loops because it is part of an individual’s survival strategy. But I strongly recommend you take it out because most of the time, one’s lies, subsequent revelations and then the feeling of betrayal ruthlessly injures their emotional health. But make sure that the fears that caused those loops are also shown the doors. If they don’t, loops will continue to reappear. For example, if you incessantly feel you are going to lose, you will be tempted to lie in order to ensure you taste victory by hook or by crook. Therefore, before you take the lying loops out of your handwriting, make sure the fears are liquidated first.
(Vishwas is an India-based handwriting analyst. He lives in Mumbai)